After almost 60 years I have figured out a real truth. Instead of wanting to save people, why don’t we, instead, serve people?
That has been my problem all of these years, always feeling like I need to save people, not serve them. The world is full of people who want to save us, from our selves, from pain, from discomfort, from having our feelings hurt or our ego’s bruised. And then there are organization who want to save us, you and me, from other people, like racists, or bigots, or men and whoever. It is always about saving, but it should really be about serving.
The difference between the two is enormous. When we save people we put ourselves on a pedestal, we anoint ourselves the privilege of knowing how to best save someone from something that we perceive to be wrong or dangerous; we think we are serving them by saving them. What actually transpires is you insert yourself as being superior, as if you alone can determine what lesson can be learned at hand by the person you are supposedly saving. We feel better when we try to save others without doing any serving.
The desire to serve someone requires nothing from them, only what I choose to do for them. When you save someone you are doing something they may, or may not want, or even ask for.
Take the pandemic, for example. I didn’t ask the CDC or the government to give me guidance once I heard that if you wash your hands, keep distant and try to live a healthy life, your chances are 3 in a 1000 you might get sick. Once I understood the conditions, I was quite prepared to live life, knowing the risk. I didn’t ask for shutdowns, I didn’t ask for mask mandates, and while I understand the need to save, what about just the desire to serve, like asking an elderly friend if you could go to store for them, or just bring them a meal, check in, make sure they can get to the hospital if they need a friend to drive them. When did we serve? No. Instead we were told to avoid others, to stay in doors, to keep away. Who told us this? The people who want to save us, from ourselves.
I’m not suggesting healthcare workers didn’t serve. Of course they did, they decided to make it their life to serve. But the leaders, the Fauci’s, the media hype about death and new case counts, government leaders shutting down schools and businesses based on little science, all of it came from a desire by some to save us, but no necessarily to serve us, unless you think a $1400 stimulus check is being served.
Even in my own life so much energy is sometimes wasted on writings or blogging, or tweeting, trying to ‘wake people up,’ to save them from fake news, or whatever, to get them out of the matrix. You know, the thing that drives us to be talk show hosts, or opinion anchors, people like Joy Reid, Don Lemon, Nicole Wallace, Stephanie Ruhle, Hannity, Levin, all trying to save us from whom they deem to be dangerous, people who think differently from them, people who can hurt you, they say.
Even religious people need to save you.
Is that serving?
Saving can also be misguided, wasted energy; when you serve you receive a form of spiritual energy. It feels good to serve, to do nice things for people with no expectation of anything in return.
Even if it is a little thing, serving is man’s best choice when it comes to living. It not only measures good character but also enhances character development. What other act achieves this result?
Christians will even tell you, Jesus never said to go out and save souls but he did say go out and serve your fellow man.